Jack's answer is the right answer. I used to play professional blackjack. Lord, oh Lord, did I see a lot of gambling addicts. Addiction is NOT the fault of the other person. Think about if she was addicted to drugs / club life instead of gambling and used the excuse of his frugal lifestyle bored & restricted her. You wouldn't blame him for being a frugal bore. You'd blame her for robbing her family to feed the drug addiction /dealers / clubs instead of seeking treatment. The really sad thing about it is there were so many ways to make real money gambling in the 90s. It was so stupid to throw $$$ away. And yet I'd see people do it every day, and they couldn't be reasoned with. Addiction eats people's brains.